ADHD coaching for queer and neurodivergent adults, informed by occupational therapy, lived experience and curiosity.
Hello Friend & welcome.
Perhaps you have spent a long time trying to understand why some parts of everyday life seem to require so much energy.
You may have found ways of adapting, masking or pushing through that have helped you navigate work, relationships and the expectations around you. Some of those adaptations may still be useful, while others may have started to come at a cost.
Maybe you have recently been diagnosed with ADHD, or you are beginning to understand yourself through a neurodivergent lens and finding yourself looking back at parts of your life differently.
Instead of asking “How do I get better at managing my ADHD?”, we might get curious about a different question:
What is happening here, what makes sense in the context of your life, and what might be helpful now?
Identity is not binary.
Change is not linear.
Belonging is not something to earn.
A different approach to ADHD coaching
ADHD does not exist separately from the rest of your life. How you experience it can be shaped by your body, relationships, environment, identity and the systems you are navigating.
My approach brings together occupational therapy, ADHD coaching and lived experience. Rather than jumping straight to strategies or assuming there is one right way of doing things, we can take time to understand what is happening and what might be influencing it.
That might mean exploring executive functioning, sensory needs, emotional regulation, routines or relationships. It might also mean noticing what your body is communicating, looking at the demands of your environment, or questioning expectations that were never designed with you in mind.
From there, we can explore what might actually be useful for you.
ADHD Coaching
My 1:1 ADHD coaching sessions offer space to explore what is happening in your life, understand the patterns that may be getting in the way, and work together to find approaches that fit you.
Sessions are available online or in person in South East London.
£125 per 60-minute session
A free 30-minute discovery call gives us a chance to meet, discuss what you are looking for, and see whether working together feels like a good fit.
Access to Work funding can also be used to fund ADHD coaching for eligible clients.
Financial Accessibility
I’m committed to making ADHD coaching inclusive and accessible:
Access to Work Scheme: If you are eligible, Access to Work funding can be used towards ADHD coaching and workplace support. I work with clients who use Access to Work funding for their coaching sessions.
Scholarships: I offer a small number of scholarship places at 50% of my usual fee for people who are not eligible for funding and would otherwise find the full cost difficult to access. Places are prioritised for queer, BIPOC, disabled and low-income people.
Pro Bono Support: I also offer a small number of free coaching sessions for people experiencing significant financial hardship. If this applies to you, you’re welcome to get in touch to discuss what might be available.
What clients say about ADHD coaching
"ADHD Coaching with Stella has been amazing. I’ve always had plenty of ideas and interests, but following through and managing my time felt impossible. I honestly couldn’t picture life without the chaos, but after a year, things have genuinely shifted. Coaching is a slow burner—I didn’t even realise how much was changing until about halfway in. Meeting with Stella each month helped me set goals and, for the first time, actually achieve them. I also really appreciated Stella’s warmth and humour. During our sessions I felt completely myself, able to share openly without judgment. Thank you, Stella" -Emma S
"Working with Stella has been absolutely transformative for me – across so many areas of my life. From the very first session, I felt seen, understood, and supported. As someone who is queer, poly, and generally a bit outside the norm, I wasn’t sure I’d find a coach who truly ‘got’ my values and experiences. But Stella really does. They bring such insight, warmth, and care to every session, and also offer amazing support between sessions. I’ve learnt so much from the communication practices they model. I always feel safe to unmask and share the messy, vulnerable parts of my ADHD journey, because I know I’ll be met with empathy and genuinely helpful ideas for moving forward, never patronised or pathologized. What’s more, every session is fun – really energising. I leave each one feeling more grounded, hopeful, and capable. Working with Stella has been one of the best decisions I’ve made for my wellbeing and growth, and I can’t recommend them highly enough". - KD 2025
I've been working with Stella for the last 6 months. Their insights have helped me greatly. She doesn't shy away from telling you the things you might not want to hear but it's done in a caring and non-judgemental way. I look forward to continue with Stella's coaching. I highly recommend working with them. - DV 2025
Occupational Therapy, coaching and lived experience
I’m a Senior Mental Health Occupational Therapist (HCPC registered) with over 8,000 hours of experience working with neurodivergent people, alongside my own lived experience as a queer ADHDer.
Occupational therapy has shaped the way I understand ADHD. Rather than looking at a person in isolation, I’m interested in what happens between the person, their body, the things they need and want to do, their relationships, their environment and the wider systems around them.
My background in trauma-informed yoga also informs how I work. Where it is useful, we can bring attention to sensory needs, body awareness and nervous system regulation as part of the coaching conversation.
What is queer ADHD coaching, and how does it support neurodivergent adults?
Queer ADHD coaching is person-centred, trauma-informed support for LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent adults. Sessions bring together occupational therapy, ADHD coaching and an understanding of how identity, relationships, environment and wider systems can shape your experience of ADHD.
What makes your ADHD coaching service different?
My approach brings together occupational therapy, ADHD coaching and lived experience as a queer ADHDer. I’m interested in how ADHD is shaped by your body, relationships, environment, identity and the wider systems around you, rather than looking at difficulties in isolation. Where useful, we can also explore sensory needs, nervous system regulation and practical adaptations that fit your life.
Is your ADHD coaching kink-friendly and inclusive?
Yes. My practice is kink-aware, sex-positive and welcoming of different relationship styles and identities. I work with queer and neurodivergent adults, including people navigating kink, BDSM, polyamory and other non-traditional relationships. You should not have to explain or defend these parts of your life in order to be understood here..
How do I book a free ADHD coaching discovery call in London or online?
Booking is simple. You can book a free 30-minute discovery call here. ADHD coaching sessions are available online or in person in South East London.
Is ADHD considered neurodivergent?
Yes. ADHD is a form of neurodivergence. In coaching, I work from a neurodiversity-affirming perspective, which means understanding differences in attention, energy, sensory processing and executive functioning in context rather than treating them as personal failings.
Do I need a formal ADHD diagnosis to work with you?
No. You do not need a formal ADHD diagnosis to work with me. I work with people who are diagnosed, awaiting assessment, self-identifying or exploring whether ADHD might help make sense of their experiences. We can work with what is happening in your life and what might be useful for you, regardless of whether you have a formal diagnosis.
Can ADHD get worse with stress?
Stress can make ADHD-related difficulties more noticeable. When demands increase, it can become harder to access attention, working memory, emotional regulation and other executive functions. In coaching, we can look at what is adding pressure, what your body and nervous system may be communicating, and what changes or supports might reduce the load.
How does sensory processing relate to ADHD?
Many people with ADHD experience sensory processing differences, including being more or less sensitive to sound, light, touch, movement or other sensory input. This can affect concentration, energy and everyday activities in ways that are easy to miss.
As an Occupational Therapist, I can help you explore your sensory needs and how they interact with your routines, environments and daily life. We can then look at practical adaptations that make things more manageable.