ADHD coaching for queer and neurodivergent adults, informed by occupational therapy, lived experience and curiosity.
Hello Friend & welcome.
Perhaps you have spent a long time trying to understand why some parts of everyday life seem to require so much energy.
You may have found ways of adapting, masking or pushing through that have helped you navigate work, relationships and the expectations around you. Some of those adaptations may still be useful, while others may have started to come at a cost.
Maybe you have recently been diagnosed with ADHD, or you are beginning to understand yourself through a neurodivergent lens and finding yourself looking back at parts of your life differently.
Instead of asking “How do I get better at managing my ADHD?”, we might get curious about a different question:
What is happening here, what makes sense in the context of your life, and what might be helpful now?
Identity is not binary.
Recovery & healing are not linear.
We all have a story.
The beautiful mess makes us human.
A different approach to ADHD coaching
ADHD does not exist separately from the rest of your life. How you experience it can be shaped by your body, relationships, environment, identity and the systems you are navigating.
My approach brings together occupational therapy, ADHD coaching and lived experience. Rather than jumping straight to strategies or assuming there is one right way of doing things, we can take time to understand what is happening and what might be influencing it.
That might mean exploring executive functioning, sensory needs, emotional regulation, routines or relationships. It might also mean noticing what your body is communicating, looking at the demands of your environment, or questioning expectations that were never designed with you in mind.
From there, we can explore what might actually be useful for you.
ADHD Coaching
My 1:1 ADHD coaching sessions offer space to explore what is happening in your life, understand the patterns that may be getting in the way, and work together to find approaches that fit you.
Sessions are available online or in person in South East London.
£125 per 60-minute session
A free 30-minute discovery call gives us a chance to meet, discuss what you are looking for, and see whether working together feels like a good fit.
Access to Work funding can also be used to fund ADHD coaching for eligible clients.
Find out more about ADHD coaching
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Financial Accessibility
I’m committed to making ADHD coaching inclusive and accessible:
Access to Work Scheme: Eligible UK clients can receive funding of up to £69,000 annually for ADHD coaching and workplace support. Many of my clients use this funding, and sessions are priced at £125/hour to align with DWP rates.
Scholarships: For those not eligible for funding and without means to pay full price, I offer scholarship places at 50% off. Places are prioritised for queer, BIPOC, disabled, and low-income individuals.
Pro Bono Support: I also offer free sessions for community members experiencing financial hardship or crisis. If this is you, please get in touch to discuss options.
What Others Are Saying
"ADHD Coaching with Stella has been amazing. I’ve always had plenty of ideas and interests, but following through and managing my time felt impossible. I honestly couldn’t picture life without the chaos, but after a year, things have genuinely shifted. Coaching is a slow burner—I didn’t even realise how much was changing until about halfway in. Meeting with Stella each month helped me set goals and, for the first time, actually achieve them. I also really appreciated Stella’s warmth and humour. During our sessions I felt completely myself, able to share openly without judgment. Thank you, Stella" -Emma S
"Working with Stella has been absolutely transformative for me – across so many areas of my life. From the very first session, I felt seen, understood, and supported. As someone who is queer, poly, and generally a bit outside the norm, I wasn’t sure I’d find a coach who truly ‘got’ my values and experiences. But Stella really does. They bring such insight, warmth, and care to every session, and also offer amazing support between sessions. I’ve learnt so much from the communication practices they model. I always feel safe to unmask and share the messy, vulnerable parts of my ADHD journey, because I know I’ll be met with empathy and genuinely helpful ideas for moving forward, never patronised or pathologized. What’s more, every session is fun – really energising. I leave each one feeling more grounded, hopeful, and capable. Working with Stella has been one of the best decisions I’ve made for my wellbeing and growth, and I can’t recommend them highly enough". - KD 2025
I've been working with Stella for the last 6 months. Their insights have helped me greatly. She doesn't shy away from telling you the things you might not want to hear but it's done in a caring and non-judgemental way. I look forward to continue with Stella's coaching. I highly recommend working with them. - DV 2025
A Unique Blend
As a Senior Mental Health Occupational Therapist (HCPC registered) with over 5,000 hours of experience working with neurodivergent clients, I bring a unique perspective to ADHD coaching:
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Build routines that align with your values and needs
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Manage sensory processing challenges
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Navigate daily life with confidence and balance
My background in trauma-informed yoga also informs how I work — bringing body awareness, breathwork, and nervous system regulation into our sessions when helpful.
What is queer ADHD coaching, and how does it support neurodivergent adults?
Queer ADHD coaching is person-centred, trauma-informed support for LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent adults. Sessions blend occupational therapy, coaching, and inclusive practices to help you thrive as your authentic self.
What makes your ADHD coaching service different?
My approach combines years of NHS experience supporting neurodivergent service users as a senior mental health occupational therapist, my background as a trauma-informed yoga and meditation teacher, and my lived experience as a queer ADHDer. You’ll receive professional, holistic, and affirming support, with a strong peer element and a deep understanding of both systemic barriers and personal challenges.
Is your ADHD coaching kink-friendly and inclusive?
Yes! My practice is kink-aware, sex-positive, and welcoming to all relationship styles and identities. I provide non-judgmental, trauma-informed support for queer and neurodivergent adults, including those exploring kink, BDSM, or non-traditional relationships. No judgement here hun.
How do I book a free ADHD coaching session in London or online?
Booking is simple—just click the “Book a Free Discovery Call” button on this page or use the contact form. Sessions are available virtually or in person in London.
Is ADHD considered neurodivergent?
Yes, ADHD is a form of neurodivergence. Neurodivergent support recognises and affirms diverse ways of thinking, learning, and experiencing the world.
Can ADHD get worse with stress?
Unfortunatley yes. Stress can intensify ADHD symptoms like difficulty focusing, emotional dysregulation, and overwhelm. When your nervous system is in overdrive, it's harder to access the executive functions you rely on.
That's why my coaching integrates somatic practices, mindfulness, and emotional regulation techniques. These tools help calm your nervous system so you can think more clearly, respond rather than react, and build resilience over time.
How does sensory processing relate to ADHD?
Many people with ADHD also experience sensory processing differences: being over- or under-sensitive to sounds, textures, light, or other stimuli. This can affect focus, energy levels, and daily functioning in ways that often go unrecognised.
As an Occupational Therapist, I can help you understand your unique sensory profile and how it impacts your life. In coaching, we explore practical strategies to work withyour sensory needs rather than against them. Creating environments and routines that actually support you.