Blog Posts

Applying for Access to Work ADHD funding as a self-employed person can feel like a faff, but, it’s worth it. I paid around £3,500 out of pocket for a virtual assistant before I made my Access to Work claim. Here’s everything you need to know about how to apply, in plain language and without the overwhelm.

Access to Work ADHD applications can take months and often get delayed at key stages. Here’s what slows the process down and how to avoid common pitfalls.

Access to Work ADHD funding can be used to pay for a virtual assistant or support worker. Here’s how it works in practice, including what my VA does in my ADHD coaching business and how this support is funded.

You already know what rejection sensitive dysphoria is. But why does rejection hit so differently when you have ADHD? This post explores the neuroscience behind RSD, how it shows up in daily life, and what you can actually do to manage it — without toxic positivity or quick fixes.

ADHD burnout isn't just being tired. It's the bone-deep flatness that comes from years of masking, overcompensating, and pushing through in a world not built for your brain. This post explains what ADHD burnout actually is, why it happens, and what recovery can look like (without the toxic positivity).

ADHD rejection sensitivity isn't about being "too sensitive" — it's a neurological response you can't just think your way out of. This post explores why rejection hits so intensely when you have ADHD, what's actually happening in your brain, and why your reactions make complete sense.

I received £15,931.59 in Access to Work funding as a self-employed ADHDer. Here's the full story — the application, the mistakes, the tax return chaos, and everything I wish someone had told me before I started.

I've been practising ENM for ten years. I feel compersion, not jealousy. My people are my people. So when rejection sensitive dysphoria hit me at a play party — hard, visceral, out of nowhere — I didn't see it coming. This is what happened, what helped, and what I now believe about RSD in non-monogamous relationships.

Do you spiral into shame or panic when someone doesn't reply, gives mild feedback, or seems a little distant? You might be experiencing rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) — an intense emotional response that's extremely common in ADHD. Here's what it is, why it hits so hard, and what actually helps.

ADHD overwhelm is real — and pushing through rarely helps. Practical, nervous-system-informed strategies for finding calm without forcing stillness or pretending it's fine.

Practical occupational therapy techniques for ADHD: routines, transitions, sensory supports, planning tools, and ADHD-friendly systems that actually stick.

Learn how to deal with ADHD emotional dysregulation with practical, neurodivergence-affirming tools for overwhelm, shutdown, and big feelings.

Discover how ADHD medication transformed my productivity, career, and self-care as a queer ADHD coach in London. This blog explores the balance between medicated focus, capitalist expectations, and creating space for fulfilment and rest—offering affirming insights for neurodivergent adults.

Affirming ADHD coaching for sex workers. I understand neurodivergence, queerness, kink & disability. Book a free discovery call with a sex work friendly coach

Affirming ADHD coaching for sex workers. I understand neurodivergence, queerness, kink & disability. Book a free discovery call with a sex work friendly coach

If you’ve ever had an amazing scene (or a deliciously intense play session)… and then a few hours later you feel flat, teary, irritable, foggy, or weirdly ashamed — you’re not broken, and you’re not “too much.” You might be meeting sub drop , top drop , and/or a plain old dopamine crash . This post is for anyone exploring ADHD and kink who wants language that’s practical, non-pathologising, and trauma-informed. Quick definitions (so we’re speaking the same language) Sub drop

Navigating boundaries in ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and relationship anarchy (RA) is a journey, one that’s deeply personal, sometimes messy, and always evolving. For queer and neurodivergent folks, it can be even more complex, especially when you’re unlearning old patterns or dealing with rejection sensitivity, masking or trauma. What Makes Boundaries Different in ENM & Relationship Anarchy? People often mix up rules and boundaries, but they’re not the same thing Let’s break

New Year can bring pressure, anxiety, and big “fresh start” expectations — especially if you have ADHD. This post offers a gentler, winter-aligned approach to ADHD New Year’s resolutions, with practical ways to handle change in routine without shame.

Healthy boundaries are the invisible lines that help us protect our time, energy, and emotional health. They shape how we relate to others and ourselves; giving us space for autonomy while allowing for genuine connection. But if you’re queer, neurodivergent (especially ADHD), or both, setting and maintaining boundaries can feel like an uphill struggle with no clear rules and a lot of internal hurdles.

If Christmas leaves you exhausted, overstimulated and wondering what’s wrong with you, this is for you. I unpack what ADHD burnout is, how holiday stress affects ADHD brains, and small, realistic changes that can make December feel more bearable