Queer ADHD Support in the UK
Can you relate to any of these?
Do you often find yourself acting impulsively or getting swept away by anger or rumination?
(Me too. The struggle is real.)
As a Mental Health Occupational Therapist with lived experience of ADHD, I offer LGBTQIA+ ADHD coaching in the UK—person-centred, trauma-informed support for neurodivergent, queer adults. My practical approach helps you move from stress and overwhelm to confidence and meaningful action.
Neurodivergent Coaching With Stella
We’ll work together to achieve ADHD milestones that matter to you—free from the expectations of ableist society.
Move away from imposter syndrome
Work on co-regulation & interdependence
Feel less stressed & chaotic
Cultivate organisation
Increase self-awareness & compassion
In my queer ADHD coaching sessions for neurodivergent adults, we’ll collaborate to understand your unique needs, untangle complexities, and build on your strengths while addressing areas for growth. My approach is rooted in LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergence-affirming practices, ensuring every step is tailored to you
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As a queer ADHD coach in the UK, I support neurodivergent adults with a range of challenges, from relationship dynamics and workplace stress to emotional regulation and self-advocacy
Relationships Including Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM), Relationship Anarchy (RA), and other forms of relationship diversity. Topics like boundaries, communication challenges, intimacy (including kink and BDSM), and navigating unique relationship dynamics.
Working Life Aligning work with your values, improving focus, managing time, avoiding burnout, handling stress, meeting deadlines, requesting reasonable adjustments, and building self-confidence. I have experience working with diverse sectors, including public sectors, freelance work, sex work, and activism, ensuring tailored support for your unique challenges
Mental / Physical Health Addressing emotional dysregulation, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), managing meltdowns, overcoming imposter syndrome, medication management, meeting sensory needs, and working through your ADHD diagnosis (whether self-diagnosed or official).
30 min
Free
What Others Are Saying
"ADHD Coaching with Stella has been amazing. I’ve always had plenty of ideas and interests, but following through and managing my time felt impossible. I honestly couldn’t picture life without the chaos, but after a year, things have genuinely shifted. Coaching is a slow burner—I didn’t even realise how much was changing until about halfway in. Meeting with Stella each month helped me set goals and, for the first time, actually achieve them. I also really appreciated Stella’s warmth and humour. During our sessions I felt completely myself, able to share openly without judgment. Thank you, Stella"
-Emma S
"I worked with Stella in 2024 as my coach to support my challenges with ADHD. Stella is a super warm and encouraging coach. We hit it off straight away because they are very genuine and therefore I found them so easy to talk to. Stella made me feel really heard, which is exactly what I need from a coach. They're gentle and kind in their approach.
The fact that ADHD informs their own approach obviously means they can come from a place of understanding. But i've had coaches in the past which felt much more "out of the box" and less personal/personable than Stella. I really hope we can work together again in the future, and I recommend you do."
-Rose K
"Really enjoying my adhd coaching with Stella, very clear guidance and understanding, I feel like it's a good fit and I'm able to direct the sessions to where I need it the most. The handouts and ability to reach out to Stella in between sessions has been so helpfull. I highly recomend Stella for therapy and ADHD coaching."
-Paul R
"Stella is one of the most professional, friendly and considerate people I have met. I took part in her 6 week sensory course for regulation and being mother to a neurodivergent child this helped me in more ways than I expected. Being able to understand my child on a deeper level and allowing him time and space to express his needs in a way that was comfortable for him has made such a difference to our relationship and lives.Stella has a very soothing presence and she takes time to understand each individual that she works with.Thank you Stella."
-Clare Evans
"Stella is such a warm, kind, genuine, empathetic person. She makes you feel better just being in her presence. She is so inclusive and beyond non-judgemental. Highly recommend her."
-Row Bot
Is Queer ADHD Coaching For You?
Discovering whether we're the right fit for each other starts with a simple conversation; a discovery call.
Here's how you can tell if we're on the same wavelength:
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You’re committed to your personal growth and development
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You're eager to make lasting changes to better manage your ADHD.
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You seek a coach who embodies warmth, compassion and the ability to keep sessions focused and energised.
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You're drawn to a holistic, integrated approach that celebrates your weirdness.
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You're tired of having to explain the fundamentals of your queer identity and crave working with someone who inherently ‘gets it’.
Meet Stella
Pronouns: She / They
My name is Stella. I am a trained and practising Mental Health Occupational Therapist within the NHS, working in a specialist outpatient service. I work with complex, neurodiverse service users every day. I also have lived experience of being neurodivergent, I’m queer and a relationship anarchist. I've been a trauma-informed, embodied yoga teacher since 2016.
How Does ADHD Coaching Work?
Price
Coaching sessions are £125 an hour and billed monthly. This fee includes one hour of 1:1 coaching, handouts, coaching notes, and contact time between sessions. Purchase now
Location
Sessions are available in person in Forest Hill (South East London), on Zoom, or by phone.
Frequency
We will meet once a month. This schedule allows time for you to integrate the work and take the necessary steps towards achieving your goals.
Booking
Once you’ve committed to supporting yourself with Queer ADHD coaching, booking your sessions at times that suit you is quick and easy.
Financial Inclusivity
I am committed to making my services as accessible and inclusive as possible. You might be eligible for Access to Work funding. Additionally, I offer two scholarship places, allowing clients to access coaching at 50% off.
Number of Sessions
Coaching works best as a long-term commitment, with direct debit payments running for a year. Sustainable change isn’t a quick fix, but the ultimate aim is to foster independence. If you achieve your goals or decide not to continue, you can cancel at any time.
Structure of Sessions
Sessions follow a consistent structure:
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The first part is dedicated to reflecting on the time since our last session.
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Next, we celebrate victories and achievements while also creating space to explore challenges.
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Finally, we focus on the next steps and practical actions to move forward.
Approach
My coaching is person-centred and collaborative. I draw on the psychosocial model, motivational interviewing, trauma informed practice, intersectionality, critical race theory, and neurodivergence-affirming practices to provide tailored support.
Ethical Framework
I have over 5,000 hours of experience working with complex neurodivergent clients in my role as an NHS Occupational Therapist. My approach is rooted in ethical practice, ensuring safety and respect.
What ADHD Coaching Isn't
It’s important to understand what ADHD coaching involves
- and what it doesn’t!
Coaching isn't therapy or counseling
While I am a therapist, I am not your therapist! Coaching focuses on building strategies to manage challenges, but it does not involve processing past trauma or addressing mental health conditions. For therapeutic and crisis support, a therapist or counselor would be better suited.
Coaching isn’t about fixing or curing ADHD
Neurodiversity-affirming practice means recognising that ADHD isn’t something to be "fixed." Coaching helps you understand how ADHD shows up for you and supports you in developing tools to work with it, not against it.
Coaching isn’t a quick fix
Building sustainable habits and strategies takes time, commitment, and practice. A coach provides guidance, motivation and structure, but the effort ultimately comes from you. The more you put into the process, the more you’ll get out of it.
Coaching isn’t one-size-fits-all
A holistic, person-centered approach is essential. Every individual’s experience of ADHD is unique, and coaching is tailored to your specific needs, preferences, and goals—rather than offering generic advice.
LGBTQIA+ ADHD Coaching F A Q
What is LGBTQIA+ ADHD coaching?
LGBTQIA+ ADHD coaching is person-centred, trauma-informed support that understands both neurodivergence and queer identities. It’s designed to help you thrive as your authentic self.
Who is your ADHD coaching for?
My coaching is for LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent adults in the UK—especially those seeking affirming, inclusive support tailored to their unique experiences.
Do you offer online ADHD coaching?
Yes! I work with clients across the UK and beyond via secure video calls, so you can access support wherever you are.
What makes your ADHD coaching different?
As a queer, neurodivergent Occupational Therapist, I blend lived experience with evidence-based approaches, centring your identity and needs—no deficit language, just affirming, practical support.
How do I get started?
Book your Free Discovery Call today to work out if we’re a good fit.
Start Your ADHD Coaching Journey
Momentum Coaching Service
125
Every month
Comprehensive coaching support to build momentum & make significant progress managing ADHD obstacles
6o mins of 1:1 sessions
Opt out available by arrangement
Check-in via whatsapp between sessions
1 x handout after each session to integrate the work
Written notes shared after each session
Access To Work:
How to get the cost of your ADHD Coaching covered by the DWP
Did you know that the UK government’s Access to Work scheme could provide you with up to £69,000 a year in funding to help you succeed at work?
For individuals with ADHD, this funding can unlock access to resources and support that enable you to thrive in your career. From ADHD coaching to specialist equipment, Access to Work is designed to make workplaces more inclusive and supportive.
Scholarships
2 places available annually at 50%
Places are prioritised for queer, BIPOC, low income, students, unemployed, disabled.