Sex Work Friendly ADHD Coach: Affirming Support for Neurodivergent Sex Workers

Stella Billerey
14 minutes ago
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Close-up of a neurodivergent sex worker in pink lingerie and sequin skirt, sitting comfortably and confidently.

Money, time, and energy can feel like a constant juggling act when you're living with ADHD—especially in the SWers, where unpredictability and stigma add extra layers of complexity. If you're looking for a sex work friendly ADHD coach who gets it, you're in the right place.

I want you to know: you are valued here. This is a space where your experience is honoured, your identity is affirmed, and your challenges are understood.

Sex work is work—whether you're camming, sugaring, stripping, offering patronate, escorting, selling feet pics on socials, or working in any other part of the industry. You deserve support that recognises the full spectrum of your experience, without judgement or assumptions.

I have personal experience navigating the intersections of ADHD and sex work, so you won't have to explain the basics to me. I also have friends, partners, and clients who are sex workers and sex educators, and I'm deeply committed to creating a non-judgemental, trauma-informed coaching space where you can thrive.

Why ADHD and Sex Work Can Be a Complex Mix: What Sex Work Friendly ADHD Coaches Know

Both ADHD and sex work come with unique challenges—and when combined, those challenges can multiply:
- Irregular income and financial unpredictability: ADHD can make budgeting and planning harder, and fluctuating income adds another layer of stress.
- Executive dysfunction: Managing bookings, promotions, client communication, and boundaries demands high organisation and focus—areas where ADHD often makes things tougher.
- Stigma and shame: Sex work is still heavily stigmatised, and ADHD is frequently misunderstood. Together, they can create feelings of isolation and invisibility.
- Emotional regulation: Navigating client relationships, safety, and your own boundaries requires emotional resilience, which can be harder to maintain with ADHD.
- Lack of affirming support: Many services and coaches overlook or misunderstand the intersection of neurodivergence and sex work, leaving you to explain yourself repeatedly.

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ADHD Strengths in Sex Work

ADHDers bring so much to the world of sex work:

Creativity: Many ADHDers are natural creatives, able to come up with unique offerings, content, and ways to connect with clients.
Entrepreneurial spirit: Running your own business—whether it's camming, sugaring, dancing, or something else—takes guts, adaptability, and drive, all of which are often found in neurodivergent folks.
People skills: ADHDers can be deeply empathetic, intuitive, and great at connecting with others—qualities that are invaluable in sex work.
Resilience and resourcefulness: Navigating stigma, changing platforms, and managing your own brand all require flexibility and persistence.

I see you hun, and the skills you use to thrive in SW are strengths.

The Intersections We Navigate

Sex work, queerness, kink, and disability often overlap in ways that mainstream support spaces rarely acknowledge. Research by SWARM (Sex Worker Advocacy and Resistance Movement) found that 77% of sex workers identified as disabled or living with a long-term health condition. ADHD is a recognised disability under the Equality Act 2010, and many neurodivergent people find sex work offers the flexibility and autonomy that traditional jobs don't.

Queer and kink communities are also deeply connected to sex work, both historically and in the present. If you're navigating multiple identities: queer, kinky, neurodivergent, disabled, you deserve support that sees the whole of you, without assumptions or judgement.

This is that space.

If this resonates with you, I'd love to chat. As a sex work friendly ADHD coach, I'm here to support you exactly as you are.

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The Current Climate: Why Speaking Up Matters

Right now, UK sex workers are facing increased stigma and risk due to proposed changes in the law—specifically, the Crime and Policing Bill 2025, which aims to introduce the "Nordic Model." This would criminalise the purchase of sex and anyone who "assists, facilitates, controls, or incites" sex work: including colleagues, safety partners, and even website admins.

These changes don't make sex workers safer. Instead, they drive the industry further underground, make it harder to access support, and increase the stigma and isolation that so many already face.

As a healthcare professional working in both public and private sectors, I believe it's vital to speak up. Stigma and criminalisation don't protect people. They create barriers to safety, healthcare, and accessing non-judgemental care. I'm committed to using my voice and platform to advocate for sex workers' rights, autonomy, and safety—inside and outside the therapy and coaching spaces.

You deserve support from someone who not only "gets it," but is also willing to stand alongside you in the fight for dignity, respect and safe working enviroments.

You Deserve Coaching That Gets You

My ADHD coaching is sex worker friendly, queer-affirming, and trauma-informed. I'm designed specifically for queer, neurodivergent adults in sex work who want:

A safe, affirming space where you won't have to explain the basics of your work
Practical strategies that fit how your ADHD brain works
Support setting boundaries, managing overwhelm, and building sustainable routines
Help navigating the emotional ups and downs of this work
An understanding partner in your journey, who respects your autonomy and identity

What Coaching With Me Looks Like

Together, we'll explore your unique challenges and strengths, and create tools that work for you. Coaching is collaborative, trauma-informed, and tailored to your pace and needs.

Whether you want to improve your time management, reduce burnout, clarify your boundaries, or just feel more grounded and confident, I'm here to support you.