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Affirming ADHD coaching for sex workers. I understand neurodivergence, queerness, kink & disability. Book a free discovery call with a sex work friendly coach

If you’ve ever had an amazing scene (or a deliciously intense play session)… and then a few hours later you feel flat, teary, irritable, foggy, or weirdly ashamed — you’re not broken, and you’re not “too much.” You might be meeting sub drop , top drop , and/or a plain old dopamine crash . This post is for anyone exploring ADHD and kink who wants language that’s practical, non-pathologising, and trauma-informed. Quick definitions (so we’re speaking the same language) Sub drop

Navigating boundaries in ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and relationship anarchy (RA) is a journey, one that’s deeply personal, sometimes messy, and always evolving. For queer and neurodivergent folks, it can be even more complex, especially when you’re unlearning old patterns or dealing with rejection sensitivity, masking or trauma. What Makes Boundaries Different in ENM & Relationship Anarchy? People often mix up rules and boundaries, but they’re not the same thing Let’s break

Kink and BDSM spaces often feel like home for many neurodivergent folks, especially those of us with ADHD. If you’ve ever wondered why, you’re not alone. There’s a growing conversation about the overlap between neurodivergence and kink, and it’s not just a coincidence. Let’s unpack why you'll often find so many ADHDer in queer kink space

Understanding How ADHD Shapes Sexuality and Desire ADHD doesn’t just affect focus or organisation—it also influences our sexuality, how we experience desire, and the ways we connect in intimate relationships. For queer, neurodivergent people, navigating sexuality often means stepping outside neurotypical scripts and embracing more authentic, affirming approaches. How ADHD Can Influence Sexuality Impulsivity & Novelty Seeking: Many people with ADHD crave novelty and stimulatio