The Power of Connection for Queer Highly Sensitive People

Stella Billerey
Nov 7
2 min read

White cushion with colourful circles featuring affirmations: ‘Be kind’, ‘Slowness is strength’, ‘Honesty and openness’, ‘Everyone is learning’, ‘Depth over drama’, and ‘No one is right or wrong’, representing core values for queer highly sensitive people seeking connection and support.

In this guest post, Aimee from Sensitive and Queer explores why connection is essential for queer HSPs who often feel like they have to do it all alone. If you've been craving spaces where you can be fully seen and supported, this is a reminder that healing doesn't have to happen in isolation.

The myth of doing it all alone

For many queer highly sensitive people, healing feels like something we have to do alone.

Highly sensitive people (HSPs) process sensory information more deeply, feel emotions more intensely, and often pick up on subtleties others miss. It's a trait found in about 20% of the population, not a disorder, but a different way of experiencing the world.

We've learned to cope by withdrawing, staying quiet, keeping things in. Often because we've had to. The world hasn't always been kind to our sensitivity or understood our queerness.

So we protect ourselves by pulling back. By becoming self-reliant. By telling ourselves, "I'll figure it out on my own."

And while solitude can be helpful, especially for highly sensitive people, it can also become a kind of survival mode, one that keeps us from the very thing we long for: connection.

Why Connection Is Healing For Queer Highly Sensitive People

Connection isn't just nice to have; it really is vital. For highly sensitive queer people, it lets us be ourselves where we can just exist without having to justify who we are or without feeling like they need to change.

When we're with others who get it, who understand what it means to feel deeply, something shifts. We relax. We remember that we're okay as we are.

Healing in connection might look like:

A friend who checks in when you've gone quiet
A support group where you don't have to perform
A community space where everyone's allowed to be messy and real

These moments matter. They change something.

Finding spaces that work

Aimee from Sensitive and Queer, smiling and wearing a blue knitted jumper, representing supportive queer spaces for highly sensitive people.

Creating queer spaces where connection doesn't feel like pressure is so important. Somewhere you can show up exactly as you are: inspired, uncertain, tired, or full of ideas.

At Sensitive and Queer, the coaching, courses, and community are built for thoughtful, intuitive heart-led folks who want to grow without losing themselves in the process.

You don’t need to change who you are, you just need the right support to grow in a way that feels like you.

Finding your people

If you're a queer HSP who's been doing everything alone, it doesn't have to stay that way.

Reach out. Join a group. Send the message. Let someone in.

It doesn't have to be all at once. Just one small step toward connection can start to change things.

Healing is easier when you don't have to do it by yourself.

About the Author

Written by Aimee Tasker, a coach for highly sensitive LGBTQ+ people who want to create heart-led, nervous system-friendly lives and businesses. Aimee brings grounded, compassionate support to those navigating change, self-discovery, or entrepreneurship. She founded Sensitive and Queer to support LGBTQ+ HSPs to understand their sensitivity as a strength, build confidence and clarity, and take aligned action without burning out..